The Couch Dilemma: A Family Showdown
Every time I visit my mom, her dog, Charlie, is always lounging on the couch, acting like he owns the place. To some people, this might not seem like a big deal, but for me, it’s a huge problem. It has bothered me for years. With my young daughter running around and my OCD diagnosis, sitting where a dog has been feels unbearable. But my mom just doesn’t seem to mind.
Boundaries: A Constant Struggle
There it was again—my mom on the couch, and Charlie curled up next to her, his big, floppy ears flopping as he shifted in his sleep. I had just walked into the living room and felt the usual wave of anger wash over me.
This wasn’t just any couch; it was the main seat in her living room, where everyone gathered to chat and relax. To my mom, Charlie was part of the family, and she loved to cuddle him, giving him all the attention.
“Mom, I can’t sit where he has been,” I said for what felt like the thousandth time. She just laughed, a carefree sound that made my frustration bubble. “Oh, that OCD will be the end of you!” she replied, waving her hand dismissively. “Being around dog germs will only make you stronger! Come here, my dear!”
My heart raced with anger. To her, my OCD was just a quirky little thing—a funny part of my personality. But to me, it was serious. I couldn’t shake the constant feeling of being dirty and covered in germs after sitting on that couch. Was I really the only one who thought animals belonged outside?
Drawing the Line: Taking a Stand
I took a deep breath, trying to steady my racing heart. “Mom, I know I’ve told you this a thousand times, but this isn’t just about your feelings; it’s about mine,” I said firmly. “If the dog doesn’t get off the couch while I’m here, I’ll leave.”
Her expression shifted, and I hoped for a sign of warmth or understanding. But instead, I was met with a resolute stare. “Mary,” she said, taking a deep breath, “Charlie is my best friend. He’s family to me. I’m not going to shut him out just because you’re here. You either accept him, or…”
I stared at her, feeling a wall rise between us, stronger than ever before. It felt like Charlie mattered more to her than my comfort and peace in her own home. It was time to take action.
Taking Control
I quickly formed a plan in my mind. “I need to grab something from the car,” I said, trying to keep my tone calm as I walked toward the door. She raised an eyebrow but didn’t say anything. As I stepped outside, I felt a mix of determination and anxiety. If she thought of Charlie as family, I would show her what it really meant to put family to the test.
Once outside, I took a moment to breathe and clear my head. When I walked back in, Charlie was still sprawled on the couch, his big, innocent eyes watching me. Without thinking twice, I walked up to him, scooped him into my arms, and carried him outside, locking the door behind me.
My mom’s eyes went wide with shock as she rushed to the door, clearly upset. “Brianna, are you serious?” she shouted, her voice rising in disbelief.
“Here’s the choice, Mom,” I said, my voice stronger than I had ever thought it could be. “If Charlie stays in the house, I leave. If he stays outside, I stay. I can’t keep coming here and feeling unwelcome or ignored.”
A Decision That Changed Everything
Her face fell, revealing a mix of hurt and anger. She clearly didn’t expect me to go this far. I watched as her gaze shifted between me and Charlie, deep in thought. Her expression softened, but I could see the struggle written all over her face. She cared for Charlie deeply, maybe even more than she cared for me. Slowly, she shook her head, looking pained.
“Oh, Brianna, I love you,” she said, her voice trembling. “But I can’t change who I am, and Charlie is a part of me.”
In that moment, I realized we were stuck. I had always hoped she would understand and make just a small change so I could feel truly welcome in her home. But instead, we both felt misunderstood and unwilling to change. Turning away, I sensed how final my choice was.
As I walked to my car, my ultimatum hit me fully. The question kept echoing in my mind: Was I being unreasonable? Maybe this was just about protecting my own boundaries. In that long, silent moment, I knew that things between us would never be the same again.
Driving away, I thought about how hard it was to stand up for myself. I understood now that my feelings were valid and that it was essential to express them—even if it led to tough conversations. Sometimes, love means making difficult choices, and I had just made one.
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17 thoughts on “My mom let’s her big dog stay on the couch. I decided to teach her a true lesson”
I think you are an ass for doing that…I just do and I’m on Charlie’s and your mom’s side…it’s her home don’t disrupt her comfort for yours.
I’m on your mom side. She is there all by herself unless you decide to come over. Charlie is her family. Truth hurts sometimes.
Her house, her furniture and her dog. If you haven’t had a dog, you don’t know what you are missing. The dog is with her all the time, you aren’t. I’m with the dog and your mother.
You were way out of line. It is her house.If she wants the dog on the couch, so be it. Besides the dod spends much more time with her than you do. And sadly she will not have him forever. She will be deeply saddened when he leaves. And you are not there for your mother. Who do you think you are that you can just take the dog out of her house and out of her life or blackmail her? I’m glad you’re not my daughter!
As much as I love my child, my dog would REMAIN. If she didn’t choose to sit on the same furniture/ chair then bring her own
The daughter was wrong giving her mom an ultimatum..that dog is with her everyday all day long..the daughter only comes to see her once in awhile..that dog keeps the mother going..her best friend..the dog loves her uncondtionally..doesn’t judge her..like someone else said bring your own chair..that is the mother’s house not hers..dogs are family..just thinking if she thinks the dog is so dirty why did she pick it up..she’s a brat and wants her own way..she wants to be controlling..I feel sorry for the moms granddaughter..
At one time, I had 2 inside dogs. A full blooded German Shepard & a half English Labrador & half Beagle. The GS was my son’s & either slept in his bed or on the floor. Went every where with him. I slept with my dog, he ate what I ate, he had his own chair & he could do whatever he wanted. I told people that he lived here, they didn’t!! If my dog didn’t like you, I didn’t like you. I loved him. He has been gone for almost 7 years & I miss him so very much!!
You are a mean stupid woman..
I hope one day your child does to you what you just did to yesrs.. your mom…her dog is family and her dearest companion and you want to take that away….NOT..
Leave her alone and let her enjoy her remaining years…
Simple resolution. Invite your mom to your house. Go on outings together that don’t involve her house or her dog. You don’t like it at her house so, don’t go. Doesn’t mean either of you have to “win”….you can both win.
Holy cow! I thought this story would end differently. You should never given such an ultimatum to your mother, now you’re doing to have to deal with the repercussions. I’m sorry you have OCD but that is your mother’s house & your mother’s dog & companion. You may have just destroyed the relationship you had with her. That is on you. Disgusting.
Mary, you’re SELFISH as Charlie is your mother’s constant companion, with unconditional love. He’s there when you’re not. Did you play outside “in the dirt” when you were a kid? “Dirt” will build immunities,and can easily be washed off. No one has ever died from being dirty. You’ll regret this OCD pettiness when it’s too late and Karma will bite you in unexpected ways. Re-Think your decision now.
I 👍 agree! She had no right to do that to her mother! I love my dog with all of my heart. No one should nor do they have a right to force you to make such a choice. If they do…they loose….
I would have told the daughter to write me cause charlie lives here.this is his home. He’s here for me when you aren’t. I’m sorry you feel that way about him.you need to get help for your OCD. I got help for my problem with love and loneliness and his names charlie.
I have to agree with every word that has been spoken. That daughter is not a kind or loving person!! She should be happy “MOM” has someone to love her, never leaves her alone, shares many meals. The dog fully understands when his master is sad, feeling pain, crying and lonely! For all reasons he will aways be near her to comfort, love and support her. All he wants is a pat on the head, give him a big hug, talk to him and they know a lot more than we think they know!!
The dog will never look at mom and decide to leave!! I always say,'”GOD GIVES US ANIMALS T0
LOVE AND NEVER MISTREAT! If we do mistreat a animal it might as well be a person because God created all of us and them!!
You were wrong. Dogs are family and if you can’t accept that tough on you. How often are you there for your Mom. Charlie is always there with unconditional love. Bring your own chair is it bothers you that much to sit on a chair Charlie was on. I agree with your Mom..dogs are family not something to be disposed of because of your likes and dislikes. Try getting counseling for your OCD.
Daughter ! !
So Far, from what I have read –
No One has had ‘your view’.
Your Mother has raised you – You are an Adult – Grow Up ! Your Mother has the most loyal dog to spend her time with. You
Cannot Imagine the Comfort and Peace He
has given to Her. They are surviving together as each loves and helps the other.
You should be Happy for them Both as they have Saved each other from being alone and lonely.
You are very immature. Be Happy for her and Stop being jealous or competing.
Dogs love unconditionally. Obviously, her daughter could learn something from the Dog.
I’d take the dog over the Daughter any day!!