When Family and Money Mix: My Story
Family should be the people who back you up when times are tough, like when you lose someone you love. But throw a little money into the mix, and you really see what some folks are made of.
That’s exactly what I discovered after coming into a decent chunk of change from my mom’s estate. I kept the money in a separate account, still figuring out the best way to use it without wasting any.
Lately, my husband couldn’t stop talking about the inheritance. He kept dropping hints and making plans on how I should spend it. Plus, it seemed like he expected me to foot the bill for just about everything these past few weeks.
Things came to a head when we went out to eat with his family over the holidays. The evening was going smoothly until I realized everyone expected me to pick up the check. Out of nowhere, my husband’s mom cracked a joke about me paying from my “inheritance pocket.”
That really got under my skin, but I didn’t let on. I quietly paid for my own meal and drinks, stood up, and left the restaurant. Behind me, they started yelling, and my husband even followed me out, trying to get me to come back, but I just drove home.
He didn’t show up until 3 a.m., fuming. He ranted about how I embarrassed him and his family by walking out. He even said I was trying to get back at them for not being able to help his mom when she was ill—which is totally not true.
He’s really mad now, thinking I’ve caused a rift between his family and me, all over not paying for one dinner.”
He said, “You could have just paid. It wouldn’t have hurt you,” but I think it was about more than just dinner. It was about respect.
My Inheritance Drama
“Family should stand by you in tough times, like when you lose someone you love. But when money is involved, you see people’s true colors. That’s what I learned after inheriting a decent amount from my mom’s estate. I kept the money in a separate account, trying to figure out the best way to use it wisely.
Lately, my husband couldn’t stop talking about the inheritance. He kept hinting and making plans on how I should spend it. Plus, he seemed to expect me to pay for everything lately.
The breaking point came during a holiday dinner with his family. Everything was fine until I noticed everyone expected me to pick up the check. Out of nowhere, my husband’s mom joked about me paying from my “inheritance pocket.”
That really got to me, but I stayed calm. I quietly paid for my own meal and drinks, stood up, and left the restaurant. Behind me, they started shouting, and my husband followed me, trying to get me to come back, but I just drove home.
He didn’t show up until 3 a.m., furious. He ranted about how I embarrassed him and his family by walking out. He even accused me of trying to get back at them for not helping his mom when she was ill—which is totally untrue.
Now he’s really mad, thinking I’ve caused a rift between his family and me, all over not paying for one dinner.
He said, “You could have just paid. It wouldn’t have hurt you,” but I think it was about more than just dinner. It was about respect.”
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3 thoughts on “My Family-In-Law Demanded I Pay for Everything. My Reaction Stunned Them.”
Good for you.
I liked the way she handled it. It would have been different if the wife had asked the in-laws out to dinner. Some people just feel like they should expect everyone else to take care of them. She has ignorant in-laws and I am not so sure about her husband either.
I have to agree with this gal. No way is she obligated to pay for a bunch of freeloaders. Her husband must also be a jewel. I am behind her 100%.