Engagements are supposed to be full of love and excitement, but for one woman, her fiancé’s shocking request destroyed everything, leaving her doubting their future.
A 22-year-old woman was madly in love with her 25-year-old fiancé. She thought he was her perfect match. He had proposed eight months ago, and now, with only two days left until their small wedding, everything seemed to be going perfectly. She was excited, happy, and ready to start her new life with him.
But just before their big day, her fiancé made a request so shocking, it turned her world upside down.
He asked her to allow his father to inspect her hymen in front of his brothers and uncles to confirm she was a virgin.
“I’m a virgin, and so is he. He wanted to wait until marriage, and I agreed,” she explained, still in disbelief. “He told me before that in his family, the father checks the bride’s virginity the night before the wedding. I thought it was a joke.”
But he wasn’t joking. He said it was a family tradition, something all the women in his family had to go through to prove their purity before marriage.
She felt horrified. How could the man she loved expect her to go through something so humiliating? The request made her deeply uncomfortable, and she wasn’t sure she could do it. But her fiancé was firm.
“If you really love me, you’ll do this,” he told her. “If you’re truly a virgin, what’s the problem? You shouldn’t have anything to hide.”
The words hit her hard. She couldn’t believe he was trying to twist this into a test of her love and honesty. Stunned and heartbroken, she left him crying. She didn’t know what to do. Part of her wanted to call off the wedding right then and there. But she still loved him, and she wanted to be part of his family, even if this request shook her deeply.
That night, she went to stay at a friend’s house. She spent hours thinking it over, replaying everything in her mind. She knew she couldn’t go through with it. The next day, she met with her fiancé again, determined to stand up for herself.
“I can’t do this,” she told him, her voice strong but filled with sadness. “You have to respect my decision.”
But instead of understanding, he only grew more determined. “This ritual has to happen before we can marry,” he insisted, his eyes cold. “If you refuse, I’ll have to assume you’re hiding something. Maybe you’re not as pure as you say you are.”
She was stunned by his words. How could he think this way? Why was he trying to make her refusal seem like some kind of betrayal? She tried to stay calm, explaining her feelings again, but he wasn’t listening. His frustration grew with every word she spoke.
“You’re making this into a bigger deal than it is!” he shouted, his face red with anger. “If you have nothing to hide, then just do it!”
Her heart sank. She had hoped their love would be enough to make him stand up to his family, but instead, he was siding with them. Then, in a sudden burst of rage, he slapped her.
The world seemed to stop for a moment. The pain from the slap wasn’t as bad as the pain she felt in her heart. She stared at him in disbelief, her tears finally falling.
“I don’t need to prove anything to you,” he spat, his voice filled with contempt.
It was in that moment she knew—it was over. The man she had loved and planned to marry wasn’t who she thought he was. He wasn’t the person she could spend the rest of her life with.
Without another word, she turned and walked away, her heart shattered but her resolve stronger than ever. There would be no wedding.
Devastated, she went back to her friend’s house to process everything that had happened. She shared her story online, hoping to find some understanding and support during the most painful moment of her life.
Many who read her story were shocked, horrified by what she had gone through. Some even doubted it was real, thinking the story was too unbelievable. But she confirmed every word, leaving people stunned by the twisted family tradition and the man she almost married.
In the end, she chose to protect herself, walking away from the relationship despite the heartache it caused her. She realized that her dignity and self-respect were worth far more than a wedding to a man who couldn’t see her worth.
