When families blend, things can get tricky, especially if the parents don’t get along.
Recently, Stella shared her tough situation with us. She’s never clicked with her husband’s ex and now, she’s left out of her stepson’s birthday bash. She’s wondering what she should do next.
Stella’s Story
Here’s what Stella wrote to us:
“My stepson just turned 7 and his mom’s throwing a big party for him with 25 guests at her house. My husband’s invited, but his ex made it clear: he should come alone, without me.
It’s tough because my husband’s ex really doesn’t like me. I do my best with her son, but she still talks badly about me and is pretty rude. I usually just ignore her.
So, I stood my ground and told my husband he shouldn’t go to the party without me. I said, ‘If you go alone, it feels like you’re ignoring how this affects me, especially in front of our friends.’
But then he hit back, saying, ‘Maybe if you were nicer to my ex, she’d welcome you at her house. You can’t just ignore her and expect to be invited.’
He also reminded me, ‘My ex and I will always be connected because of our son.’
I really don’t want him to go to that party. I suggested we throw a smaller one at our house, but he’s set on going. Am I being unreasonable?
Yours, Stella”
What would you do if you were in Stella’s shoes?
4 thoughts on “I’m Not Allowed to Go to My Stepson’s Birthday Party”
The ex is not trying either and he should not go and yes have a small party at his place with Stella
Not knowing his prior relationship with the ex, it appears the ex is using the child as a pawn to sabotage the new wife and husband’s relationship. Current wife coild surreptitiously record conversations between her and the ex. She could also have husband casually converse with child to ascertain what the ex tells the child.
If the husband persists in supporting the ex leave with all deliberate speed.
The phrase “my ex and I will always be connected because of our son” is the important statement in this story. Its so very true, and how the x husband treats his x wife is an example to their son as to how to treat a woman whether x wife or other; he has a responsibility here and the son did not play a part in anything that happened in their marriage. The new wife needed to think twice as to what was all involved when marrying or living with this man.
If he goes it would be the last time he came through my front door. Leave him now.