Dating can sometimes feel like trying to thread a needle in a dark room—every choice matters, and it can be really hard to find your way. Today’s story is about a first date that went downhill because of one major issue: being late.
Here’s what happened:
I had a first date planned with a woman I met on a dating website. We decided to meet for coffee at 2 p.m., and I arrived right on time, feeling excited and a bit nervous. But at 2:10 p.m., I got a text from her asking, “Are you at the café?”
I replied, “Yes, I’m here.”
Then she texted back, “I’m still at home but I’ll leave shortly. I’ll be there in about 20 minutes.”
I couldn’t believe it. It felt like she was waiting to see if I was really there before she even bothered to leave her house. I was frustrated. I had taken the chance of showing up on time, and I felt she should do the same. Was I wrong to think that?
I sat there sipping my coffee, watching the clock tick by. By 2:30, I was done waiting. She still wasn’t there, and I was feeling disrespected. So, I finished my drink and decided to leave.
At 2:45, I got another text from her asking, “Where are you? I just got here!”
I replied, “I finished my coffee and left at 2:30 when you still weren’t there as promised.”
That’s when the storm started. She sent me a barrage of angry texts, calling me terrible and saying I had done everything wrong. “You should have let me know you were leaving!” she exclaimed.
But I couldn’t help but wonder—do women really expect men to sit and wait 45 minutes when they’re late? And especially when it feels like the only reason for the delay is to make the guy wait? It felt like a game or a test, and she definitely failed this one.
I’d really like to hear from women about this. Was I wrong to leave when she didn’t show up? Or was it just an unfair situation all around?
