I Disallowed My Daughter From Wearing Her Late Mother’s Wedding Gown, and There’s A Very Good Reason

Adam’s wife unexpectedly died, and he is still deep in grief.

Adam said, “My late wife, Emily, was my school sweetheart,” as he opened his letter. “We were together for a very long time before we got married. The happiest moment of my life will always be our wedding day. I remember crying when I saw Emily for the first time in her wedding gown because she looked so stunning.”

“Emily passed away last year,” Adam shared. “Her death was unexpected; she just collapsed in the street and passed away immediately. The ambulance could only confirm her death. To me, her death felt like the end of the world. I’m still in the early stages of my grieving, and I still can’t quite understand that Emily is no longer with us.”

“We have three daughters. Gerry, the oldest, recently got engaged,” Adam continued. “Her upcoming marriage should be a joyous occasion in our family, but instead, it has started an ongoing conflict between me and her.”

Gerry wants to wear her mother’s wedding dress for her own wedding.

“Recently, Gerry asked me if she could wear Emily’s wedding dress at her wedding,” Adam recounted. “I told her right away that it wouldn’t be a good idea. There’s more to it than just my not wanting anyone to touch it, not even my own daughter.”

“There’s a special story behind Emily’s wedding gown,” Adam revealed. “Emily made it by hand, all by herself. She worked on it for two months and didn’t accept any help, not even from her beloved grandmother.”

Adam explained why Emily was so determined to create her own wedding gown. “Emily got pregnant while we were just dating,” he wrote. “Even though we were young and had our whole lives ahead of us, we were thrilled about the baby.

Our parents were incredibly supportive and promised to help us as new parents. We had even picked out a name for the baby: Emily, after her mother. But tragedy struck, and our baby girl passed away two hours after she was born.”

For Adam and Emily, the wedding gown held a special meaning.

“We wanted to honor our baby’s memory,” Adam continued. “So Emily asked the nurses to carve our daughter’s footprint into a piece of clay. Later, this tiny clay footprint was placed in a small sack and sewn inside Emily’s wedding gown. Emily insisted this was essential for her to remember our baby.”

Adam said, “We never told our daughters about this, so none of them knew. When Gerry asked again about wearing the dress, I told her no. I said her mother wouldn’t approve of it. Gerry got very upset and called me names, accusing me of being a bad father and of hoarding my wife’s belongings.”

Adam suggested an alternative. “I told her no again,” Adam wrote, “but I offered her some of her late mom’s jewelry instead. She refused to listen and insisted on wearing the dress, accusing me of trying to ruin her wedding.”

“I’ve tried to offer her many other options,” Adam admitted. “I volunteered to pay for her wedding, buy her an expensive designer dress, and even get her some nice jewelry as a gift. But she won’t discuss these options with me and is trying to create more conflict between us and with the rest of the family.”

Adam’s decision has caused criticism from many, including his family.

“Now, all of my daughters are against me, standing in solidarity with their sister,” Adam wrote. “Even my parents are criticizing me, saying my daughter and I shouldn’t be fighting over a piece of fabric. They say it would be a tribute to Emily’s memory and that I should let her wear the dress.”

However, Adam stands firm. “Emily would never let anyone touch her wedding dress,” he said. “I don’t think I should explain to Gerry why I keep saying no. My daughter needs to accept my decision, and I don’t think she should know this painful memory.

I’m supposed to make a choice I can’t make, and if I push for it, I’ll lose my daughter’s trust. I’m completely lost now. What should I do?”

Here’s another dramatic tale of a woman who was severely embarrassed during her own wedding by her spouse. However, the woman took immediate and severe revenge and didn’t leave things as they were.

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