A woman’s life turns upside down after 13 years of marriage when her husband suddenly demands a separation and plans a drastic cross-country move, all while hiding a secret that could change everything. She uncovers a hidden relationship with an old friend, leading her to a shocking crossroads.
On February 3, 2024, an anonymous woman shared her gripping story online. Her husband, who had seemed happy at first, became frustrated with his job and announced he was applying for a position across the country.
Then, out of nowhere, he bluntly suggested they separate. “He went on a tirade about how terrible I am and out of nowhere suggested a separation,” she shared, feeling his reaction was extreme and unfounded, despite their usual ups and downs.
In the following weeks, she discovered her husband was texting an old friend who had recently divorced. This friend was helping him secure the new job, and their communication was intense—over 500 texts a day, or around 24,000 in a month.
Online comments overwhelmingly supported her, with many labeling her as “NTA” (Not The Asshole) for her choices in response to her husband’s betrayal and plans.
Her husband wanted to move the entire family—her, his mother, and their two young children—to a new state. She reflected on all her past sacrifices, including moving for his graduate program and job. “Moving away from the kids’ school and friends, as well as my work and friends, is unconscionable,” she expressed.
The situation escalated when her husband went for what was supposed to be a one-day interview, which stretched into four days. During this time, she found evidence suggesting he planned to have a sexual relationship.
When confronted, he admitted he had been “unhappy for 15 years.” She then considered filing for divorce and asking for physical custody of their children to keep them in their home state.
Her husband argued that growing up without a father figure made him believe it was crucial for the kids to have him around and insisted she was necessary for the kids’ benefit.
Online commenters were fiercely supportive. One said, “He’s angry because he lost his edge when you realized what was going on and hired a lawyer. It seems as though he intended to relocate you all and then anchor those children to his new site. So you were stranded with the children. Fantastic work! You are unquestionably NTA!”
Another added, “NTA. Because he is having an affair and doesn’t want to make trouble for anyone, he doesn’t get to completely ruin everyone’s lives.”
A third voice chimed in, “NTA—no way would I move just for him to divorce you when you move. Without a doubt, get a divorce immediately before he quits his job.”
What do you think about this story? Is it right for her husband to want a separation while pressuring her to move across the country for him? If you were in her shoes, how would you respond? Would you support his decision or disagree?
